The Dirtbag’s Valentine’s Day Gift Giving Guide

Valentine’s Day’s right around the corner and last week I was imagining if I had a girlfriend, what would I get her? Taking her out to dinner on Valentine’s Day’s too cliche. She’d want some sort of gear, no doubt about it, or maybe I’m delusional.The Dirtbag's Valentine's Day Gift Giving Guide

I mean come on, what girl wouldn’t want an ice axe, climbing helmet, trad rack, backcountry cook set, avalanche beacon…with a shovel, sleeping pad, or some other piece of gear that makes my heart start racing when I think about it. Not because of the hefty price, but because that means we can go on new adventures and explore more places together.

While I think giving a girl gear on Valentine’s Day would be a way of saying look at all the memories we get to make together, I guess I could see her thinking, or saying, it’s a little unromantic. Not to mention that it’d probably make her parents worry that I didn’t know how to properly “protect” and care for their little girl.

Google’s of no help either. I searched a couple G rated phrases and was surprised when retailers tried to convince me that every woman out there wants sexy lingerie, and shall we say sex items, for Valentine’s Day. Is this seriously what we’ve come to? A society where Valentine’s Day = sex. All of a sudden I bet that outdoor gear’s sounding more romantic and thoughtful than hey I got you this to put on to then take off within a couple minutes because you know…Valentine’s Day.

Finally I threw the question out to social media, asking the ladies about their favorite Valentine’s Day gift they’ve gotten. Responses trickled in and some of them were pretty simple and neat like: a bouquet of flowers accented with Black Diamond Stoppers and another was a burrito from her favorite burrito joint in Hueco Tanks after a long day of climbing. Then stories of travel and adventure came in: snowboarding in 14 inches of fresh powder, a surprise hike followed by a picnic in the snow, and even an engagement in Paris.

I guess Valentine’s Day gift giving isn’t as easy as it used to be in elementary school where a piece of candy affixed to an NBA Valentine’s card was totally acceptable and to my dismay, no one’s published a gift guide that lays out what’s customary for your relationship. Since there’s no gift guide because every relationship is different and special in its own way, why wouldn’t it be acceptable for me to give a girl some sort of gear?

You might give me a weird look and tell me she’s going to dump me because I decided to get her a bike rack to mount to the roof racks on her car, but deep down I’ll know she’d love it because one of our ideal dates is a day riding our mountain bikes on single track. Then again I’d probably give you a weird look if you told me you bought your significant other an expensive piece of jewelry that’s probably worth more than my car, but deep down you can’t wait to see the sparkle in her eye as she puts it on and the two of you head out to dinner.

Every relationship has their norm’s and I think that makes each relationship unique and beautiful in its own way. It’s like what my friend Jeff said:

Do what you love…and the love will follow

Bottom line–I can’t wait to give a girl some sort of gear for Valentine’s Day, her birthday, Christmas, heck or just because it’s Wednesday. Come to think of it, I’ve heard girls mention they love getting a handwritten note and flowers…

Happy Valentine’s Day…or Singles Awareness Day!

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  1. Amy says

    Giving gear or adventure is a great idea in my book! I kid you not, I asked my husband for a PETT portable toilet for Valentines this year. To me, nothing says “I love you” like NOT having to walk to the campground’s pit toilet in the middle of the night!

  2. says

    For the first 6 years of marriage I got a knife for every Christmas. Then my husband surprised me with diamond earrings. Girls like knives, we also like to be surprised with diamonds 😉 Love the post!

  3. says

    I hate giving stuff as gifts. Stuff can be used up, misplaced, broken. I much prefer giving events. Some sort of memory making experience. Be it a concert or a picnic on a beach or a hike to an amazing waterfall, I know those kinds of gifts are never forgotten. Now if only I had someone to whom I could give that kind of gift …

  4. says

    love it! My favorite gift from Ryan was a camping griddle for making campfire pancakes and eggs. You’re so right, the best gives are the ones that say, “Let’s go on an adventure!”

    Keep up the good reads!

  5. Kelsey says

    Not gonna lie, my favorite present ever was a ultra warm down jacket from feathered friends. I’m pretty sure my bf was just trying to tell me he was tired of hearing that I was cold though…

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