Have you ever gone to a party or a bar with a friend because that friend talked you into it? It’ll be fun, they said. You need to get out more, they say. The guy/girl of your dreams could be there tonight and you’ll never know it if you don’t get out there, they said.
These are all logical points and it seems like a good idea until you show up and realize you know nobody. Yikes! If you think walking into a room full of muggles you don’t know is one of the scariest situations, then you and I are a lot alike. Walking into that congested room with my friend, I look at my friend and think to myself you better not drink or you had better have remarkable control over your bladder because you are not leaving me, not even to use the bathroom. Like clockwork the worst thing happens, my friend has to go to the bathroom and I’m left alone amongst a sea of faces I don’t know and I don’t know what to do to not draw attention to myself. Maybe you’ve felt the same way. I don’t know about you, but sometimes I start thinking of places I’d rather be, alone. Sound familiar?
Next time you’re in the same situation, just think to yourself, what I would give to be alone and enjoying my time here…
Watching the sunrise
Isn’t it great to watch a new beginning appear right before your eyes? I think so and it’s always perfection whether it’s at the beach, in the mountains, or even on the way to work. Seeing the sky painted with pastel colors is always worth the early morning wake up call.
Taking pictures at Golden Hour
Before getting into photography and videography, I thought the best times to get landscape pictures was high noon. When the sun’s at its highest and it’s bright out, assuming there aren’t clouds in the area, and you don’t even have to worry about shadows. Golden Hour’s a beauty of its own with the rays of light beaming into your lens and streaming through clouds, trees, tall grass, and all around you.
Drinking a homemade cocktail at sunset
Sitting back and reflecting on the day, week, month, life itself with a drink in your hand. That’s the time when you can really do some deep thinking and soul searching alone.
Hiking a trail
Go for a hike alone and you get to see all the wildlife you want to see. Never do you have to worry about the person with you making too much ruckus to scare off that deer 10 feet away from you. The shutter from your camera will do that though.
Whether you’re car camping or on an overnight backpacking trip, you just have to watch out for yourself. Only you have to ration water and food for your needs and you’ll never have to punch someone for reaching for your Swedish Fish when no one’s around you. Unless a bear’s going for your Swedish Fish, you should just let the bear have your Swedish Fish.
Surfing at your secret spot
The surf lineup’s getting more and more crowded these days and if you find a secret spot, you better hold that information close. Don’t let anyone know and you could be surfing pristine waves alone and by yourself for years, maybe even decades, to come.
Riding your bike
The wind whipping past your face as you get lost counting your pedals to figure out your rpm’s. Or maybe it’s just for a ride around the city so you can bomb that badass hill that you love so much. It’s a lot of fun going alone, not having to worry about getting separated from someone or your friend getting mad at you for making them eat your dust.
I feel a tap on my shoulder and the nightmare’s over. My friend has come back to rescue me from these faces that are just going to be forgotten the minute I look away. Sound familiar? But maybe my friend that drags me out and your friend that drags you out to a social gathering to be social have got a point.
Having alone time is phenomenal. Sometimes alone time’s essential for anyone’s well being, but come to think of it, it might be nice to share a sunrise, sunset, take someone special’s picture at golden hour. Carry a little extra weight in the pack so their load’s a little lighter, race down that badass hill on bikes together, and setting up camp after a long day on the trail’s a lot easier when one person’s setting up the tent and the other’s starting dinner. And you know they like you as a person when they offer to share their Swedish Fish with you and you know that offering to share your Swedish Fish is one of the kindest gestures.
Maybe holding a blue security blanket like Linus Van Pelt is holding us back from getting out there and having fun. I guess we’ll never know until we leave it at home and get out there.